Your first paragraph really resonated with me. My parents grandparents and Aunty were always saying "shhh!" or, keep you voice down darling or, we don't need to know what your feeling/thinking all of the time and don't show off! I'm 64 and the words are still being whispered in my ear (even from the grave). It's a difficult habit to break, being a light bulb!! X Thanks for a great Insta page and for "All is well, my darling xx
I so relate to this post. Thanks for writing. I have been told I’m too something my whole life. I feel like every single time someone said you’re too whatever is seared into my memory. Too tall, too big, too intense, too intellectual, too intimidating - because of the previous things, too introverted, too loud - when I’m not being introverted, and the most frequent from when I was capable of remembering. Marion you are just way too sensitive.
So now at almost 60, I allow myself to be as introverted as I feel, I only socialize when I want to which isn’t very often and people seem to like the sensitivity especially when they’re telling me their problems. I usually don’t mind, but boundaries are something I’m still working on :) Happy Sunday to all.
November 21st is my mum's birthday. She passed away in 2018. I shared her birthday with a new this year colleague and friend named Shauna. On the 21st, Shauna showed up to my office with a piece of tiramisù and a candle. She told me she thought mum would want me to make a wish on her birthday. It was one of the loveliest gestures anyone has ever done for me.
That night, I lit the candle, made a wish for me, my sister, and for Shauna. The tiramisù was divine. ✨️
The shining light was perfect timing. My 17 year old is going through her first love heartbreak and she needs to remember to shine and not have her light out out. Just want her wild soul to come back and dazzle so I’ve sent her your first paragraph. Your words are for all so thank you ❤️👏
The photo caption is everything: “Me being exactly the right amount of myself on a photo shoot this week.” Loved this so much. Your words are like a soothing balm @bryonygordon
It’s really interesting what your too much is. That you feel too much, almost not worthy of the space you take up. But I know that I could never think of you as too much. I love that that you take up space, that you build other women up, that everybody of every shape is valid. I bet you wouldn’t say to your friends or anyone what you say to yourself. I know I often say things to myself that I wouldn’t dream of saying to others. Why do we do that?
My too much is just too much going on in my body. How much more can my dick of a body go wrong? But, in a week that’s felt very hard, I’ve got through it. And today I feel...... better, better than I was. Breathing is easier, less painful. I have done what I’ve needed and rested. Properly rested. Sometimes we need to just stop, give our bodies and minds time to just be. So for once, I’m going to say, me, I made that difference. I listened to my body. And I decided it is ok to do nothing.
I hope your ‘I’m too much’ voice quietens, you are perfect the way you are, if you weren’t you, there would be a Bryony shaped hole in the world. As you say, All is well my darling, with you in this world
I can relate to this but very much in the opposite direction. I am very much an introvert and continuously question am I to boring? to dull? do I not go out enough? do I make people feel bored, should I be shinning more? but to be honest if I try and be what I'm not, especially to make others happy then I'm doing myself a great injustice. We are all made uniquely wonderful and though we may never understand why we are how we are, how we are will always bring a gift to this life. we can not all be the same and why would we want to. so yes Bryony, shine in all your glory because when we shine in our true authentic self's our light will shine and when a light shines, it guides and we can all guide someone else in need.
Your first paragraph really resonated with me. My parents grandparents and Aunty were always saying "shhh!" or, keep you voice down darling or, we don't need to know what your feeling/thinking all of the time and don't show off! I'm 64 and the words are still being whispered in my ear (even from the grave). It's a difficult habit to break, being a light bulb!! X Thanks for a great Insta page and for "All is well, my darling xx
Be a goddam floodlight Lizzie! Xx
I so relate to this post. Thanks for writing. I have been told I’m too something my whole life. I feel like every single time someone said you’re too whatever is seared into my memory. Too tall, too big, too intense, too intellectual, too intimidating - because of the previous things, too introverted, too loud - when I’m not being introverted, and the most frequent from when I was capable of remembering. Marion you are just way too sensitive.
So now at almost 60, I allow myself to be as introverted as I feel, I only socialize when I want to which isn’t very often and people seem to like the sensitivity especially when they’re telling me their problems. I usually don’t mind, but boundaries are something I’m still working on :) Happy Sunday to all.
Too intimidating - I used to get that all the time! Keep being you Marion xx
I love reading "The Dazzle"!
November 21st is my mum's birthday. She passed away in 2018. I shared her birthday with a new this year colleague and friend named Shauna. On the 21st, Shauna showed up to my office with a piece of tiramisù and a candle. She told me she thought mum would want me to make a wish on her birthday. It was one of the loveliest gestures anyone has ever done for me.
That night, I lit the candle, made a wish for me, my sister, and for Shauna. The tiramisù was divine. ✨️
I love this, and I love you, and I love Shauna xxx
The shining light was perfect timing. My 17 year old is going through her first love heartbreak and she needs to remember to shine and not have her light out out. Just want her wild soul to come back and dazzle so I’ve sent her your first paragraph. Your words are for all so thank you ❤️👏
The photo caption is everything: “Me being exactly the right amount of myself on a photo shoot this week.” Loved this so much. Your words are like a soothing balm @bryonygordon
Thank you Jo xx
It’s really interesting what your too much is. That you feel too much, almost not worthy of the space you take up. But I know that I could never think of you as too much. I love that that you take up space, that you build other women up, that everybody of every shape is valid. I bet you wouldn’t say to your friends or anyone what you say to yourself. I know I often say things to myself that I wouldn’t dream of saying to others. Why do we do that?
My too much is just too much going on in my body. How much more can my dick of a body go wrong? But, in a week that’s felt very hard, I’ve got through it. And today I feel...... better, better than I was. Breathing is easier, less painful. I have done what I’ve needed and rested. Properly rested. Sometimes we need to just stop, give our bodies and minds time to just be. So for once, I’m going to say, me, I made that difference. I listened to my body. And I decided it is ok to do nothing.
I hope your ‘I’m too much’ voice quietens, you are perfect the way you are, if you weren’t you, there would be a Bryony shaped hole in the world. As you say, All is well my darling, with you in this world
Aww Amanda, sending you so much love xxx
I love your newsletters Ms G, they're such a joy to read. So looking forward to hearing your BIG NEWS!
I can relate to this but very much in the opposite direction. I am very much an introvert and continuously question am I to boring? to dull? do I not go out enough? do I make people feel bored, should I be shinning more? but to be honest if I try and be what I'm not, especially to make others happy then I'm doing myself a great injustice. We are all made uniquely wonderful and though we may never understand why we are how we are, how we are will always bring a gift to this life. we can not all be the same and why would we want to. so yes Bryony, shine in all your glory because when we shine in our true authentic self's our light will shine and when a light shines, it guides and we can all guide someone else in need.
Oh I love this, Bryony!
I love you!
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